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Sex. It’s a topic that’s undeniably on the minds of most (if not all) college students. It’s an activity in which most students are eager to participate. Thus, it’s absolutely imperative that all students educate themselves about sex and develop safe sex practices.
Most college campuses have a health center that can provide education about sex and health. Students can book an appointment to speak to a healthcare professional or can simply take a few pamphlets relating to topics of interest. While there is nothing that can replace the insight and guidance of a trained professional, this website can serve as a good starting point to get important facts and statistics regarding issues related to sex, such as contraceptive methods, pregnancy and STDs.
Sex should only ever occur between consenting individuals. Making the decision to become sexually intimate with someone should never be taken lightly. It is a big step to take - one that will fundamentally alter the character of the relationship. You should never feel pressured to have sex. If you want to do it, then you have every right to make that choice. However, you also have the right to choose not to.
Sex usually takes places within the context of a committed relationship, but one-night stands and casual, sometimes unplanned, “hook-ups,” (a euphemism for sex that often implies the consumption of alcohol or drugs such as marijuana) are certainly not uncommon in a college setting. In fact, they are becoming more common every day. The traditional dinner-and-a-movie date is being replaced by watching a DVD in a dorm room. The “going steady” ideology of the past is disappearing, and today’s college students are becoming more interested in simply “hanging out” in open relationships that may or may not lead to hooking up.
Regardless of how you label your relationship with your sexual partner(s), there are a few characteristics that should be present in all healthy sexual relationships. These include:
If characteristics such as jealousy, possessiveness, control, fear, embarrassment and a lack of respect are present, then your relationship is an unhealthy one. If you believe that you are in an abusive relationship, seek assistance from a counselor or social worker.